Getting out of Enmeshment

Are you feeling overwhelmed with the chore of masking all the time, but also exhausted by managing other people's reactions to you when you're authentic?

Maybe you've set a limit or a boundary after being pushed to the breaking point, and the heard "why are you being so cold?" Or, "that's so selfish of you". Maybe you've gotten the cold shoulder, or worse, there was an explosion of words and emotional barbs and guilt hooks that left you feeling harangued, guilty, twisted up, and ashamed, promising to just dig in harder and do a better job being the perfect, needless, wantless partner, daughter, son, coworker, etc.

I drew this crazy white board diagram during a session with a client recently. That's one of my favorite things to do, use the white board.

Can you relate to the graphic?

Let me reassure you - it may not feel or seem like it when you're looking at the other person's reaction, but holding boundaries in love is not only more loving for YOU, but also for the OTHER person. They just haven't seen it yet.

Press on, warriors.